Having run a couple of blogs entitled 'A Desperate Mum's Guide to...' and had a lovely response to the posts on getting vegetables into toddlers and finding 'me time', it dawned on me that with the help of a supportive, varied and experienced network, the desperation of a particular situation soon dissipates as you come to realise you are not alone and your experiences are not unique and often more importantly, will not last forever!
It is with that realisation in mind that I have changed the guide title to 'A Savvy Mum's guide to...'. The dictionary definition is:
sav·vy
noun
2.Also, sav·vi·ness. practical understanding; shrewdness or intelligence; common sense: a candidate who seemed to have no political savvy.
Now I don't know about you but when I'm at a low point in energy and am feeling a bit vulnerable about my parenting or about a particular situation relate to my child, the last thing I want highlighted is my desperation! To try to approach it differently and from a position of savvy, gives me just that little bit more strength to face another challenging moment/ day with my toddler.
If I can feel that I am in a position of intelligence and capable of more than gibbering mutterings from the corner of a darkened room, then the day seems survivable.
If I can feel that I do know my child and what the solution to the current situation is, I've just had my common sense battered out of me by a toddler who is discovering sheer will and bloody-mindedness (read: independence), I know we will get there in the end.
If I can feel just that little bit more supported through a forum chat, coffee group or Facebook conversation then that feeling of desperation and vulnerability is weakened and my deepest confidence and belief in myself and my good parenting is strengthened.
We are continuously on a tremendous learning curve throughout the entirety of motherhood (I'm told it is never-ending...children continue to astound and confound into adulthood, for as long as you are a mother... :-)) so there will always be points of vulnerability and uncertainty. It is how we approach them that counts in making the difference: desperate or savvy?
So no longer is it 'A Desperate Mum's guide to..' blog posts.
I am a savvy mum and I know where to go for help; I have a supportive network from a variety of sources; I know and understand myself and my child (we are learning and I have faith); I am intelligent, and have common sense.
I am a good mother and am raising an incredible little girl. A little girl who I hope continues to astound and confound me every day.
PP
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